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u/CoSonfused Jan 28 '23 edited Jan 28 '23
don't marry a dude.
If you're as confused about this as I was.
Dude is American slang for an individual, typically male. From the 1870s to the 1960s, dude primarily meant a male person who dressed in an extremely fashionable manner (a dandy) or a conspicuous citified person who was visiting a rural location, a "city slicker".
Don't mitten a mechanic
"mitten" was a 19th century term for reject.
Don't marry a fop
Same as a dandy/dude. Or a silly person.
Don't marry a coquette.
A coquette is a flirt, a girl or woman who knows how to flatter and manipulate men with her charms in order to get what she wants
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u/THEBHR Jan 28 '23
Ok, but can you explain...
Don't marry a man too poor
Don't spurn a man for his poverty
Because this feels like a riddle I have to answer to get the meaning of life from an old hermit.
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u/Loki-Holmes Jan 29 '23
That one is really interesting. As a shot in the dark- perhaps it is more focused on social class and the former means don’t marry a poor while the latter means that gentleman who is of a decent family with little money is suitable. Someone will probably show up with the real explanation that makes us all go Ohhhh soon.
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u/ScandinavianOtter Jan 29 '23 edited Jan 29 '23
The "guide" is actually a satire, basically the takeaway is to marry whoever you feel is right without prejudice. Hence all the do's and dont's
edit: it even says don't marry too soon, then, don't marry too late, next to each other.
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u/MysticEagle52 Jan 29 '23
Tbf there's probably a healthy middle zone between the two
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u/overlydelicioustea Jan 28 '23
what does fine feathers mean?
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u/RedoftheEvilDead Jan 29 '23
well dressed; of an excellent appearance. (Alludes to a bird that has clean, bright, and flawless feathers.)
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u/tentacleyarn Jan 29 '23
They might spend too much time preening and put more effort into their appearance than into their character?
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u/ItchyPast1 Jan 28 '23
Mitten a mechanic?
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u/neowwneoww Jan 28 '23
Yes, only glove a mechanic. They need dexterity of their fingers!
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u/ItchyPast1 Jan 28 '23 •
I had to look it up. Apparently mitten meant reject.
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u/y0urm0msname Jan 28 '23
If you can't be handsome, be handy.
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u/Bleys007 Jan 28 '23
We’re all in this together. Keep your stick on the ice.
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u/3point21 Jan 28 '23
I’m a man… But I can change… If I have to… I guess…
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u/Significant_Bad_2787 Jan 28 '23
Found the noble Red Green Redditors! Here's your duct tape! 🎁
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u/slamdamnsplits Jan 28 '23
Ooooooooooooh... I thought it was "handsy"
I need to make some apologies.
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u/Paper-Specific Jan 28 '23
That's neat, must share origins with 'omit'
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u/ElectricRune Jan 28 '23
I get it; I've often asked myself, "Is there something I'm a-mitten?"
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u/cryo_burned Jan 28 '23
Mitten - From 1755 as "lace or knitted silk glove for women covering the forearm, the wrist, and part of the hand," worn fashionably by women in the early 19c. and revived towards the end of it. Hence get the mitten (1825), of men, "be refused or dismissed as a lover" (colloquial), from the notion of receiving the mitten instead of the "hand."
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u/DaddliestCallum Jan 28 '23
My thoughts were along the lines of to mitigate or mitigation (from my knowledge/experi nice of the defense skills of mmorpgs)
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u/WhatsItToYou07 Jan 28 '23
Seems like sound advice… they must be good with their hands. 😏
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u/Pikka_Bird Jan 28 '23
And don't deglove anyone ever, mechanic or not. Also, don't look up that term unless you absolutely need your day ruined.
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u/Tirgus Jan 28 '23
Etymonline says "...get the mitten (1825), of men, "be refused or dismissed as a lover" (colloquial), from the notion of receiving the mitten instead of the "hand.""
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u/bayarea_fanboy Jan 28 '23
so... do marry a mechanic?
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u/Tirgus Jan 28 '23
Correct. Don't not marry them just because they are employed in manual labor .
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u/Original-Ad-3234 Jan 28 '23
Don’t reject them because of their trade. If they’re worthy, they’re worthy.
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u/cunmaui808 Jan 28 '23
Yeah, i once mittened a mechanic, ended up throwing the mittens away
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u/RecbetterpassNJ Jan 28 '23
Very clever. Never heard it before. Stealing for sure.
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u/ItchyPast1 Jan 28 '23
And since I’m a nerd and wondered what mechanics did before there were cars lol:
“In the 1800s, a mechanic was typically a person who was skilled in a trade. Some mechanics were blacksmiths or bricklayers, or carpenters, or held various other occupations that required extensive training. In essence, mechanics were skilled workers.”
Who knew Reddit could be so educational?😂
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u/TheYankunian Jan 28 '23
Remember the Mechanics in Midsummer Night’s Dream? Those are the jobs they did ( I think Nick Bottom was a carpenter.)
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u/fookidookidoo Jan 28 '23 edited Jan 28 '23
So don't marry a highly trained skilled worker? Man, this was some shit advice.
Edit: I totally misunderstood "mitten". My statement above was stupid, and wrong. Haha
Mitten = Reject, so don't reject a skilled worker. Makes way more sense.
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u/EponymousRocks Jan 28 '23
No, no, the advice is don't reject a highly trained skilled worker!! Still good advice today.
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u/The_Law_Giver Jan 28 '23
"Don't marry a dude." I wonder what their definition of dude was back then. Lol
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Jan 28 '23
It meant someone who lives for fashion and fancy clothes.
edit: A 'dude ranch' was a tourist or rich guy ranch for people who wanted to dress up like cowboys but not do any work, as another example.
Yes, I'm old.
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u/Claudius-Germanicus Jan 28 '23
Ram ranch really rocks
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u/violentpac Jan 28 '23
It's funny, it stemmed from people being "dandies" and being called "doods" because they were Yankee Doodle Dandy. And just like how newbies are now often "noobs," we now have "dudes" and the term is so much broader now.
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u/captainAwesomePants Jan 28 '23 •
Related fun fact, remember the weird "stuck a feather in his cap and called it macaroni" line from the song Yankee Doodle Dandy?
So, back a few hundred years ago, the cool thing for rich British kids coming of age was to go and tour the cool spots in Europe. Still true today, but back then you'd have to be pretty damn rich to tour Europe for fun. Anyway, Italy was a common destination, and those kids thought pasta was awesome, and having been to Italy to experience pasta was very trendy.
So from there, these youths started calling things they thought were cool "very macaroni," probably as a way of mentioning how they had been to Italy. But pretty quickly macaroni moved from meaning "very cool" to meaning the overly elaborate wigs and clothes that the cool kids were wearing at the time. And from there, it became a somewhat derisive term from regular people to talk about those clothes.
Anyway, so now the British want to make fun of stupid hick colonials, so they made a song about a guy who put a feather in his hat and thought it was the height of British overly elaborate fashion, so where a British dandy would wear a two foot tall wig and twenty pounds of couture frills, a stupid American dandy would use a single feather and think that he was super cool. And he's just playing at being a dandy, which is where "Doodle" comes in.
Anyway, the song was sung at Americans to mock them, but like Jeff Foxworthy and redneck jokes, a bunch of people self identified as proudly not up on Macaroni fashion. So the Americans started singing it even more than the British.
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u/dantemp Jan 28 '23
Probably half our culture (as in the whole world) is a result of counter culture becoming regular culture lmao
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u/kankey_dang Jan 28 '23
The comparison of cultural evolution to actual biological evolution has always seemed pretty apropos to me for this reason.
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u/cATSup24 Jan 28 '23
Apropos... y'know, that word isn't used nearly enough for how useful it is.
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u/SillyOperator Jan 28 '23
This was such a fun read. You should be promoted to Major Awesome Pants
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u/_Reliten_ Jan 28 '23
But how do you know he's not in a maritime service? It could be ADMIRAL awesome pants!
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u/akunis Jan 28 '23
Another fun fact: The first American to have been mocked was Thomas Ditson of Billerica, Massachusetts. He was tarred and feathered on Boston Common and then paraded around the streets of Boston while British soldiers sang a derogatory version of Yankee Doodle Dandy at him.
It caused an uproar amongst the Massachusetts colonists. Thomas Ditson went on to become a Minuteman and a war hero.
Billerica had a parade and fair each year in commemoration of their status as “Yankee Doodle Town”.
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u/Loud-Pause607 Jan 28 '23
Awesome read. At first I had to check the ending to make sure it wasn’t about the Undertaker and Mankind.
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u/thelonetwig Jan 28 '23
That was super interesting and I never knew what the hell the song was talking about with the macaroni feather. Thanks for the knowledge bomb!
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u/lDarkPhoton Jan 28 '23
British: You Americans are such losers with not having macaroni fashion. We should tell them in this song.
Americans: This song fucking slaps.
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u/YeuxBleuDuex Jan 28 '23
"Hey... Dude" was a fun show about a dude ranch
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u/Excessive_lizards Jan 28 '23
Better watch out for those killer jackrabbits, and that man-eating cacti.
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u/AdMobile8211 Jan 28 '23
Oh. My. God. You just tied me by my ankles to the back of your horse and dragged me back to my youth!
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u/gabbagool3 Jan 28 '23
what's a fop?
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u/Cultural-Company282 Jan 28 '23 edited Jan 28 '23
A fop is an effeminate, fashion-obsessed male. In The Scarlet Pimpernel, Sir Percy Blakeney pretends to be a quintessential fop character to hide his secret identity. Example:
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u/superspeck Jan 28 '23
In my day we called ‘em “metrosexuals”
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u/rgb_panda Jan 28 '23
crab people, crab people, taste like crab, talk like people
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u/Dr-Stinkyfist Jan 28 '23
"Very well. If we can't make you into metrosexuals, then we will make you into crab people! Take them!!"
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u/Capnmolasses Jan 28 '23
It ain’t no DAPPER DAN.
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u/KevinBaconIsNotReal Jan 28 '23 edited Jan 28 '23
Essentially the same as a dude, or a dandy. One might go so far as to say a fop is a metrosexual.
Excerpt from the "Fops and Foppery" chapter in the book "The Splendid Advantages of Being a Woman", written in 1876 by Charles J. Dunphie:
"His was the sumptuous age of powder and patches. He was especially dainty in the matters of sword-knots, shoe-buckles, and lace ruffles. He was ablaze with jewelry, took snuff with an incomparable air out of a box studded with diamonds, and excelled in the "nice conduct of a clouded cane."
Edit: additional context for those curious about the literature
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u/BartsNightmare_ Jan 28 '23
How do people get this kind of info? I'm enjoying the reddit thread but I need more
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u/Kaeljae Jan 28 '23 •
etymonline.com is a good place to start. Oxford English Dictionary.
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u/KevinBaconIsNotReal Jan 28 '23
I've added an edit to include what my initial haphazardly written comment left out.
So, this excerpt comes from a book titled "The Splendid Advantages of Being a Woman. And Other Erratic Essays". Once one has read through they'll understand why lol. It's humorous, obviously dated, but an enjoyable read if you've any time to kill.
Can send a link to the essays, as well as the specific passage in question. For those merely looking to read the full excerpt, here it is:
His was the sumptuous age of powder and patches. He was especially dainty in the matters of sword-knots, shoe-buckles, and lace ruffles. He was ablaze with jewelry, took snuff with an incomparable air out of a box studded with diamonds, and excelled in the "nice conduct of a clouded cane." Age brought him no wisdom, but, on the contrary, rather served to give to his folly a more poignant aroma. He culminated into some such personage as Lord Ogilby in The Clandestine Marriage. It has been observed with some touch of wit that a beau dressed out resembled the cinnamon tree, the bark being of greater value than the body. The word "macaroni," as applied to a fop, is of curious origin. In its primary signification it means a kind of paste meat boiled in broth, and dressed with butter, cheese, and spice. How it came to be used for the designation of drolls and fools is explained by Addison in the Spectator. "There is a set of merry drolls whom the common people of all countries admire and seem to love so well that they could eat them, according to the old proverb; I mean those circumforaneous wits whom every nation calls by the name of that dish of meat which it loves best. In Holland they are termed 'pickled herrings,' in France Jean Potages,' in Italy 'macaronis,' and in Great Britain 'Jack Puddings." The transference of the word from fools and clowns to men of fantastic refinement and exaggerated elegance is a singular circumstance, of which philologists have not as yet given a satisfactory explanation. That the phrase did undergo that strange metamorphosis of meaning is beyond all question. Sir Benjamin Backbite, in The School for Scandal, applies the word to horses of a good breed, as distinguished from those of inferior lineage :
"Sure never were seen two such beautiful ponies, Other horses are clowns, but these macaronis ; To give them this title I'm sure can't be wrong, Their legs are so slim and their tails are so long."
There's lots of great poems, really specific references, accounts/recounts, contexts, etc.
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u/fece Jan 28 '23
"One who is concerned with one's clothes and appearance in an affected and excessive way (typically used of a man)."
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u/LadnavIV Jan 28 '23
I think it stems from doodle. So, like a dandy or fop.
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u/Bandwagon_Buzzard Jan 28 '23
Fop is also on the list. "Don't marry the image-obsessed" is still good advice.
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u/Daydream_Meanderer Jan 28 '23 edited Jan 28 '23
Got divorced on that one. After 2 years my husband was just obsessed with his image. I mean red flags in general, he used to get upset and say people liked me more, or thought I was funnier, or was more attractive, and I was like, even if that were true, why would it matter? He started wearing make up that made him look plastic, and was getting more obsessed with the gym, not for health, but actively doing unhealthy things to look better at the expense of actual health. Threw out his wardrobe for cheap fast fashion that in my opinion, was tasteless and following the masses. It was like, your casual ‘Guess’ street wear. Idk the fast fashion has never made sense to me.
In the end he cheated on me with someone he perceived to have a better image based on his followers on Instagram, who was “more attractive” (he wasn’t), but he went to the gym more than I did. I’ll never forget, when we separated but we’re still living together, he brought his boyfriend to our house and they were going to a kickboxing class and his new boyfriend said “oh my god, if we’re late again they’re not going to let me keep being an influencer for them” and I cringed so hard it made me want to throw up. It was at that point that I was like ‘ok I’m better off moving on if that’s what he cares about.’ Ironically he ended up ruining his image, people did like me more, they all thought his very public “transformation” was tacky and weird, and I handled the divorce dignified, and he had to move to another city entirely.
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u/avoidance_behavior Jan 28 '23
ugh, someone image-obsessed is the worst- especially when you couldn't see it before! my ex was a seemingly normal, relatively humble dude for the first four years we were together; he was going to school and earning his pilot's license so between the two of those he had about two dollars to rub together. I worked full time so I took care of most of the life expenses, none of which included clothing or beautifying bc those simply weren't practical or in our price range. he never said a thing about it and had no problem when I drove us to Vegas to get married in my car that was missing a front hubcap, or when we had to eat nothing but pasta and manager's special meats from the grocery store across the street bc his flight school stole his tuition money or bc he needed to enroll in an extra class online that hadn't been in the budget.
but the second he got his degree and managed to get a pretty decent tech job that paid more than what I was making, this asshole suddenly refused to wear his old clothes, insisted I wake up early to iron his new ones, said I should be 'ashamed' of the car that I drove bc it was ugly, and insisted on eating only takeout from nice restaurants. he started demanding that I stay home while he works bc it looks bad if we both have to have jobs, and he wanted the apartment spotless so that 'guests' wouldn't be 'grossed out ' and by guests he meant other women, bc in his words, he 'deserved' women who 'took care' of themselves. he was then beside himself when his brother and his dad took my side and said 'i don't know why they like you better than me, I'm the one with the good job.' I did not feel bad when I left him so he could move his new little ~artist~ girlfriend into our place, and he promptly got drunk and took too many xanax, fell over a balcony, shattered his heels and spine, lost his job, couldn't drive, and lost the nice new car to me in the divorce. fuck your image, mother fucker.
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u/JJ0161 Jan 28 '23
he promptly got drunk and took too many xanax, fell over a balcony, shattered his heels and spine, lost his job, couldn't drive, and lost the nice new car to me in the divorce. fuck your image, mother fucker.
Jesus that was a strong finish
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u/Daydream_Meanderer Jan 28 '23
Holy fuck. I did not expect that ending. Like I started laughing so hard.
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u/procrastinatorsuprem Jan 28 '23
Living well is the best revenge.
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u/Daydream_Meanderer Jan 28 '23
Oh yeah, I don’t really think about my ex husband much now, it’s been over 2 years and I had a great year long relationship with someone else who is now one of my best friends, who taught me what a good relationship is. We broke up because he moved for a good career opportunity and I’m going to school, but we talk every day. I own my own home. I stopped drinking. Im going to the gym regularly. And I do sometimes think that I wouldn’t be as happy and making the strides I am now if my ex husband hadn’t have shown his true colors.
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u/regular6drunk7 Jan 28 '23
Yeah, well, you know, that's just like, your opinion, man.
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u/t1MacDoge Jan 28 '23
Yeaah, Far out man
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u/brickne3 Jan 28 '23
Her life is in your hands, Dude.
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u/Nixplosion Jan 28 '23
... no don ... Don't say that, man.
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u/tinglep Jan 28 '23
Way out west there was this fella... fella I wanna tell ya about. Fella by the name of Jeff Lebowski. At least that was the handle his loving parents gave him, but he never had much use for it himself. Mr. Lebowski, he called himself "The Dude". Now, "Dude" - that's a name no one would self-apply where I come from. But then there was a lot about the Dude that didn't make a whole lot of sense. And a lot about where he lived, likewise. But then again, maybe that's why I found the place so darned interestin'. They call Los Angeles the "City Of Angels." I didn't find it to be that, exactly. But I'll allow there are some nice folks there. 'Course I can't say I've seen London, and I ain't never been to France. And I ain't never seen no queen in her damned undies, so the feller says. But I'll tell you what - after seeing Los Angeles, and this here story I'm about to unfold, well, I guess I seen somethin' every bit as stupefyin' as you'd see in any of them other places. And in English, too. So I can die with a smile on my face, without feelin' like the good Lord gypped me. Now this here story I'm about to unfold took place back in the early '90s - just about the time of our conflict with Sad'm and the I-raqis. I only mention it because sometimes there's a man... I won't say a hero, 'cause, what's a hero? But sometimes, there's a man. And I'm talkin' about the Dude here. Sometimes, there's a man, well, he's the man for his time and place. He fits right in there. And that's the Dude, in Los Angeles. And even if he's a lazy man - and the Dude was most certainly that. Quite possibly the laziest in Los Angeles County, which would place him high in the runnin' for laziest worldwide. But sometimes there's a man, sometimes, there's a man. Aw. I lost my train of thought here. But... aw, hell. I've done introduced him enough.
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u/Mimi_Roof_4432 Jan 28 '23
Thank God they warned me about not marrying a clown..whew!
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u/Nick_W1 Jan 28 '23
I think they mean clown as in joker, ie someone who thinks everything is a joke, and clowns around all the time. Not an actual circus clown with a red nose.
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u/Nntropy Jan 28 '23
Good advice both ways
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u/Diss_Gruntled_Brundl Jan 28 '23
I beg your pardon.... My cousin, the clown, drove the entire family to the reunion last spring.
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u/Cyanditt Jan 28 '23
Don’t marry a Redditor
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u/hamasho Jan 28 '23
He said, "Don't marry for money or beauty alone." They are something Redditors will never have to worry about.
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u/Fantastic_Citron_344 Jan 28 '23
Don't spurn a man for his poverty but also don't marry a man too poor wtf
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u/Bandwagon_Buzzard Jan 28 '23
Considering the age it's probably drawing a line between "working poor" and "workhouse poor".
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u/Sawses Jan 28 '23
Yep! It's like saying you shouldn't marry somebody who's homeless or who couch surfs, mooches on friends, and basically doesn't do anything to add to society.
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u/Banoonu Jan 28 '23 edited Jan 30 '23
This is the joke. “Don’t marry to hastily” and “don’t marry too slow” are next to each other, and it also advises “don’t marry for an ideal marriage.”
Sorry if you’re just carrying on the joke
edit: for the premier example of this joke, check Swift’s “When I Come To Be Old”—-all of that is also generally “correct” advice, but lacking in specifics that allow one to make a clear decision and often between such opposite ends that the advice is essentially useless. That’s the joke, which I think should be relateable to everyone—-any single piece of advice can’t account for every situation, which is why a given problem has so many “contradictory” things in that “you must remember this at all costs”. Sorry if I didn’t make that clear
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u/georgiaraisef Jan 28 '23
All are good advice. Don’t marry just anyone because you want to be married. Don’t wait to long and lose the person you love because they are ready to take the next step before you.
Also, “ideal marriage” actually means just a political or convenient marriage. Example, John and Mary are widows with kids. They marry each other despite having nothing in common because its convenient but with no foundation other than you need your partner to fill out a role for you
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u/mynextthroway Jan 28 '23
But these three aren't a joke, and neither is the poor/poverty one. It's legit, serious advice. Almost all are good, legitimate suggestions for marriage.
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u/the_cocytus Jan 28 '23
But also don’t marry for money…
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u/Common-Rock Jan 28 '23
So... Not a low wage worker, but maybe the man in the poor house... but definitely not rich, unless we are in love and the same size. But not if he dresses like a dude.
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u/LavanderMushroomMoon Jan 28 '23
It's a good thing I don't have to worry about this, because I am a silly woman, so no one should marry me at all.
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u/ZapActions-dower Jan 28 '23
Well yeah, there’s a huge difference between marrying someone primarily because they’re rich and marrying someone you love who also has money.
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u/hiredgoon Jan 28 '23
I find it amusing the concept of not marrying for money nor into abject poverty is so confusing. It is likely either of those will result in relationship tragedy.
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u/dterrell68 Jan 28 '23
Right, it’s not don’t marry into money, it’s don’t marry FOR money, which I think most people can agree with.
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u/Nick_W1 Jan 28 '23
It says ”poor man”, so it might mean a bad man, ie lazy, indolent etc. not specifically money related.
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u/jacknshit Jan 28 '23
In short, Don’t Marry.
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u/MyWifeDontKnowItsMe Jan 28 '23
Also don't marry short men.
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u/Chewbacca_Buffy Jan 28 '23 edited Jan 28 '23
“Small” not short. It means something else in this context. If you read old period pieces you’ll note men are called “small” as an insult that has nothing to do with height. Usually when they are petty, closed-minded, bigoted, lacking ambition, not progressive, etc.
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u/blindparasaurolophus Jan 28 '23
It also says don't marry odd sizes
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u/UmbryKane Jan 28 '23
Me to my husband: I'm sorry, we must divorce
Husband: Why
Me: You're 6'3....that is an....odd size
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u/waterloograd Jan 28 '23
Switch to metric, it might save your marriage!
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u/ljseminarist Jan 28 '23
I think it means unmatched sizes - when one person is much taller than the other.
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u/FITM-K Jan 28 '23
It's not just in period pieces, it is still used this way today. For example, Oscar calls Michael "small" with this meaning in The Office. (I don't have the exact quote on hand but I believe it's in the episode Gay Witch Hunt, Oscar is mad at Michael for outing him and says something like "you're ignorant and closed-minded and small." He's not talking about Michael's stature.)
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u/tishafish Jan 28 '23
From the book: “Don’t marry a very small man—a little fellow far[9] below all proportion; try to get some form to admire, something to shape things to, and some one who is not lost in a crowd completely, who is too little to admire and too small for beauty. You may need strong arms and brave hands to protect you. You will need hands to provide for and maintain you, and a good form is a fine beginning of manhood or womanhood. Mental greatness is not measured by size of brain or bodily proportions. Great men are neither always wise nor always large; they are more often of more medium build, and well balanced in gifts of mental and physical development. Of the two, a very large man is better than a small one, and a medium large woman likewise”
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u/hidinginplainsite13 Jan 28 '23
Marry for spite 😂
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u/Nick_W1 Jan 28 '23
You know, when you get dumped, so you marry the next person that comes along, just to prove to your ex that the problem wasn’t you.
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u/DoctorHandsome Jan 28 '23
I married my wife out of spite, we hate each other and it keeps things interesting
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u/seankearns Jan 28 '23
It's true. I almost married a Fop, but by the grace of God didn't go through with it.
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u/Bigfops Jan 28 '23
Harumph and balderdash!
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u/NotAnAntIPromise Jan 28 '23
I don't want Fop, dammit! I'm a Dapper Dan man!
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u/sillymissmillie Jan 28 '23
I just watched this movie recently. Hadn't seen it since it first came out but its still great. So funny and quotable! Also love the soundtrack.
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u/unfetteredmind76 Jan 28 '23
Whats a Fop?
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u/drumwolf Jan 28 '23
An outdated term for a metrosexual.
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u/ReneLeMarchand Jan 28 '23
More than that, too. What we might today call "flamboyant."
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u/LibidinousJoe Jan 28 '23
What’s the difference between a fop and a dandy?
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u/ReneLeMarchand Jan 28 '23
They are considered synonyms, but foppishness carries with it an implicit set of characteristics. Among these are traits such as limp-wristedness, lisping, and the use of powdered, hightened wigs and face-lightening makeup.
Also, "dandy" is more of an English gentleman and "fop" is more French.
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u/WhyBuyMe Jan 28 '23
Metrosexual is an outdated term. I don't think anyone has used it seriously in 20 years.
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u/cagewilly Jan 28 '23
What's the new term?
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u/HaikuBotStalksMe Jan 28 '23
We used it to describe my metrosexual friend about 10 years ago.
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u/darksideofthemoon131 Jan 28 '23
What exactly define "odd sizes?"
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u/satluvscheese Jan 28 '23
Quoting Eddie Griffin: "The biggest pimp on planet mutha ducking earth is her mama...it's her mama that tells her...make sure he has a good job...girl...make sure he pays the rent...girl...make sure he has a good car...girl...
"Whatever happened falling in love wit a ni__a with a bus pass"???!!?!!!
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u/Ambitious-Site-4747 Jan 28 '23
"Don't marry a very small man" lmao 🤣
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u/LatterNeighborhood58 Jan 28 '23
Aw man I'm a very small odd sized stingy mechanic.
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u/greygrayman Jan 28 '23
The mechanic is your saving grace.. someone posted further up that 'don't mitten a mechanic' means not to reject them. Good luck with the being small, odd sized and stingy.
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u/Addison_Clark Jan 28 '23
I’ll add 2 to this list: 1. Don’t marry out of loneliness. 2. Don’t marry for benefits like healthcare, citizenship, etc. Two VERY important lessons for me.
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u/New-Difference9684 Jan 28 '23
Are you trying to ruin the mail order bride industry?
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u/HaikuBotStalksMe Jan 28 '23
- Don’t marry out of loneliness
That's the second reason people get spouses/girlfriends. The first is because they're horny.
I don't see why you marry someone if it's not at least for sex or companionship. If it's just companionship you want, then you get friends. If you want just sex, you do one night stands.
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u/toxinogen Jan 28 '23
Books like these are so weird to read. It’s exactly 50% common sense good advice, and exactly 50% old-timey sexism.
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u/froggyforrest Jan 28 '23
Don’t marry a silly girl? Don’t show my man this.
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u/irisseca Jan 28 '23
Yeah, but in this case they don’t mean a woman who is fun and playful; they’re referring to one who is naïve and gullible…someone who lacks common sense. The dullest crayon in the box, if you will. Are we good now? Can we show him?
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u/Reagent_52 Jan 28 '23
Don't marry for an ideal marriage. What?
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u/Imyouronlyhope Jan 28 '23
I think its saying don't marry for what you wish the marriage will be like, an ideal in your head, instead of what marriage you would actually get with that man.
Like don't marry a guy who treats you like an inconvenience because you think you can fix him
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u/kilala91 Jan 28 '23
Maybe because a marriage is never going to be ideal, and if you expect it to be you're setting yourself up for a bad time.
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u/mynextthroway Jan 28 '23
Don't get married expecting the fairy tale Disney princess marriage of a perfect relationship. You will have disagreements. You will argue. There may be fights (not fist fights/beatings, just angry, loud discussion). There shouldn't be many, but there will be some. Marry for a realistic marriage of two different people now living as one.
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u/h3r3andth3r3 Jan 28 '23
Don't marry a man too poor / don't spurn a man for his poverty. Got it.
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u/AdriannaFahrenheit Jan 28 '23
Don’t marry a man too poor
Don’t spurn a man for his poverty
Ok so which is it?? I’m getting mixed signals here
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u/Zestfullyclean87 Jan 28 '23
Don’t marry a Dude.
Okay. Turning lesbian now.
Don’t Marry for Spite
How exactly does one marry for spite? I can understand fucking your ex’s friends, for spite. Or fucking their brother, or their dad. But marrying someone for spite? How does that work?
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