r/ChoosingBeggars • u/somewhatofalegend • Mar 20 '23
Supporting local business by asking for free stuff
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u/lonelyronin1 Mar 20 '23
When I started my company, I used to get these at least once a week in the spring. I didn't realize what a waste of time it was, but I used to give them a product sample with a coupon. I did the coupon so I could track if people contacted me through the event. In all the times that I did do it, I never once had anyone claim the coupon. Now, I don't give anything out for free.
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u/aamurusko79 Mar 21 '23
i've heard the idea of giving out referrar codes to instagram influencers who ask for free stuff, and promise their food, hotel stay or whatever will be 100% comped when enough codes have been used. I'm guessing not a whole lot of IG stars take the deal.
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Mar 21 '23
Had a guy ask for a massage in exchange for posting about me on Instagram stories. I told him I could do 50% off and would given him a referral code. Never heard from him again.
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u/tommiyu Mar 21 '23
Damn I go for massages for full amount. And absolutely do it for 50%. Maybe I need to consider part time instagram influencer……. 🌝
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u/Duke-of-Surreallity Mar 21 '23
I think some of them get a kick out of it - like if they get something for free they feel like they’ve ‘made it’
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u/WilliamBott Shes crying now Mar 21 '23
I'd have gladly taken you up on that offer! 50% off a massage is definitely worth it.
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Mar 21 '23
I only did it because he was a minor league football player, so he was an athlete. I looked at what they earn and maybe he couldn't afford that.
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u/HleCmt Mar 21 '23
I could see some benefit for a local small business offering to give the happy couple x amount of branded "gift cards" (BOGO) for all the goody bags or wedding party, VIPs, etc.
No free samples. Actually buy something and we'll give you a great discount/deal on certain products, and you even get to pick it yourself.
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u/chooxy Mar 21 '23
Ooh, coupon books. I rarely used those but it was always fun to flip through them.
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u/quazkapeck Mar 21 '23
I remember my school would always try and make me sell those and I always loved flipping through looking at all the good deals. And I was a kid, I didn’t even use money.
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u/CO420Tech Mar 21 '23
I'd just send them a small, like 5% off, digital coupons. Just a code with a max usage and 30-day expiration date. Takes 30 seconds and tells them what you think of their proposal.
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u/slynnc Mar 21 '23
I did this with gift certificates. I used to do little small things for raffles and whatnot for causes I support, but eventually too many people expected/demanded them, so instead I switched to gift cards. Have never had a single one redeemed… and there’s zero stipulations except you can’t split it into multiple orders. No minimum amount requirement or anything like that.
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u/TJnova Mar 21 '23
I own a restaurant - for raffles/silent auction donations, I usually give a (distinctive, so I'll recognize when it's redeemed) gift certificate that's about 10% under the amount needed for dinner for two. I always request for my certificate to be bundled into a bigger package with other local business certificates. Those two measures together lead to a redemption rate of about 50% on donated certificates vs >90% (very high I know) for sold certificates.
I'm supporting the organization I like at a lower cost, they get the same or more vs selling the certificate individually, and when someone redeems one of those certificates I try to always come out and thank them for supporting whatever charity.
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u/mschley2 Mar 21 '23
This makes it seem like you're probably both a good person and businessperson.
As someone that grew up in a small town, this kind of stuff was so common, and it's what makes people love small towns. They don't usually have a whole lot of other things going for them.
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u/TJnova Mar 21 '23
Thanks I was worried it made me look bad that I was trying for lower redemption rates on giveaways.
It's funny you said the small town comment because we're in a 20k pop town with another 30k in students at a d1 state college.
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u/testyhedgehog Mar 21 '23
I've always wondered how businesses would fare after giving out free stuff for eXpOsUrE. You have scratched my itch. Thank you.
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u/Housendercrest Mar 21 '23
It used to be only super famous people got stuff for free. And it was funny for us poor folk because of the hypocrisy, like haha, you made it, you’re rich now, but you don’t have to buy anything anymore because your famous. But now every Tom, dick, and Harry with a phone wants to try and get shit for free. The internet has ruined everything.
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u/RinoaRita Mar 21 '23
Was it for private weddings or like a local pta tricky tray? I would try to support businesses that donate to those.
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u/lonelyronin1 Mar 21 '23
I had everything from raffles for stag and does and charities, door prizes/swag bags for craft shows (usually wanting 20-50 pieces), random IG 'influencers' with 200 followers who wanted to review my product for free and many other things. After donating about a dozen times, I stopped. It was costing me for the product and especially my time to get it all together.
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Mar 20 '23
this is the most blatantly braindead ask I've seen in quite some time.
Give me free shit to give away at my wedding and I'll tell everyone you give away free shit.
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u/gbursson Mar 20 '23
Makes sense. Then everyone at the wedding will know the business is giving things away for free and ask them to do same. Smart move :D
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u/Amplidyne Mar 20 '23
Yep. Just as long as your business is actually giving away free stuff.
Should be a winner!
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u/KrazyAboutLogic Mar 20 '23
"Remember, this month we made 0 profit. But with giving away all this free stuff, in just a few months we could be making 5 times as much!!"
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u/Duke-of-Surreallity Mar 21 '23
Reminds me of an IASIP episode where they were giving away Paddy’s Bucks. Freakin hilarious.
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u/bartharris Mar 21 '23
Just watched it.
“I don’t understand how finances work.”
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u/KrazyAboutLogic Mar 21 '23
I never got into that show but maybe I should give it another chance. I always hear good things about it.
I actually got the idea for that last comment from an episode of Married With Children. Al says something similar although I forget the context.
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u/supernovababoon Mar 21 '23
The way they use the language deceptively is what gets me. Really trying to sucker people in under the guise of “supporting their business!” So disgusting.
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u/GallantGentleman Mar 21 '23
And I guarantee you that whoever came up with this post genuinely felt good about themselves for "helping" small businesses and got upset that none of these businesses took that "great opportunity".
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u/JohnEffingZoidberg Mar 21 '23
Sounds like a pretty crappy wedding if just the wedding itself isn't exciting enough for the guests.
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u/Extreme-Nuance Mar 20 '23
What's a "wedding social"? Is it like a reception?
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u/JiggleBoners Mar 20 '23
They're more like fundraisers. You rent a hall, have cheap liquor and music and sell tickets to get in. So it's not the actual wedding, it's a fundraiser to get money to have the wedding.
Take this with a grain of salt, though. My knowledge on the subject is about the Canadian prairies, 'social' might mean something different somewhere else.
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u/RckYouLkeAHermanCain Mar 20 '23
That's even worse, somehow.
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u/ARegularChicken Mar 20 '23
They’re a pretty good time actually. They’re a convenient place to bring a bunch of friends and drink for cheap for a night; often in a social hall or community centre. There are free snacks all night, dancing, and often a bunch of people you know.
That being said, there’s usually a silent auction which is why this person is looking for items. Over the years they’ve gotten more and more extravagant; lots of times relying on going to businesses and asking for free things. Most places rarely give more than a $20 gift card or something along those lines, if that.
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u/Uncivil_ Mar 21 '23
It's still just crowdfunding your wedding though right? Might as well just cut the bs and stick it on gofundme.
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u/RckYouLkeAHermanCain Mar 20 '23
Or I could just go to a normal party where I don't have to pay to get in and where there's no weird expectation that I will bankroll another adult's wants by purchasing items they didn't even pay for.
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u/ThaneOfCawdorrr Mar 20 '23
Right? "Silent auctions" are usually raised funds for a worthy cause, like a school, or an animal shelter, not for Tiffani and Brad's wedding
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u/Reefay Mar 21 '23
Excuse me. It's Tiff-ini, not Tiff-fanny. (I used to hear this from an old girlfriend.)
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u/Smallmercie Mar 20 '23
Especially since I know plenty of adults who just eloped. Cheap wedding without having to beg others to fund it for you.
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u/that_bish_Crystal Mar 21 '23
My step-mil family does something like this for their family reunion. Everyone brings a themed basket, hamper, handcrafted items, or business services and then they do a silent auction and the proceeds go to the person who put on the reunion that year. They also do a 50/50 raffle, a euchre tournament, and this other kind of instant pull type lotto tickets. It's actually pretty fun.
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u/notcontageousAFAIK Mar 20 '23
Thanks for explaining. So it's a way to beg for money. And in order to beg for money, they must first beg for free stuff.
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u/JiggleBoners Mar 20 '23
I don't know if "beg" is the right word, really. It was before my time but according to my mother back when she was in her late teens- early 20's hitting the town looking for a social to crash was the thing you used to do in Manitoba on a Friday or Saturday night.
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u/pegcityplumber Mar 21 '23
It's super common in Manitoba Canada. Tons of people have wedding socials, and it always sounds weird to people who aren't from here. A lot of people like them - it's a way to party with people who may not be invited to the wedding or can't make it for one reason or another, and a way to raise funds to pay for the wedding. It's generally seen as a win win. Cheap drinks and fun for the guests, and the possibility of prizes, and some extra cash for the couple.
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u/BigsleazyG Mar 20 '23
I don't know if putting together a nice event and charging at the door to get in is begging for money any more than a concert is an artist begging for money.
Ideally the couple holding the social would be putting effort into showing everybody a nice time for their money. I doubt this individual in OP is that way but that's how it would be in theory.
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u/packers12-17 Mar 20 '23 edited Mar 21 '23
If you can’t see how a concert and a couple trying to have their wedding bankrolled by other people are different then you’re pretty dense.
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u/pegcityplumber Mar 21 '23
Yeah this is the most Manitoba post I've seen in my front page in a while, lol
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u/numbersthen0987431 Mar 20 '23
From this site: https://socialsguide.com/what-is-a-social#:~:text=A%20wedding%20social%20gives%20people,for%20their%20new%20life%20together.
A social is a particularly Manitoba-grown concept. It's a fundraising party, often for a wedding, charitable or community organization. Usually held at a community centre or a Legion hall, it can be known as a "Manitoba Social", "Winnipeg Social", "Wedding Social", "Fundraising Social", or just simply a "Social".
When it is run for a wedding it is traditionally run by the wedding party, although it is sometimes run by the bride and groom. A wedding social gives people a way to include friends and relatives in the wedding when you could not invite them, and allows friends and family to support the couple financially for their new life together.
So it's a party to raise funds for the bride and groom, and apparently you invite the people you don't want at your wedding but still want their money.
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u/PoeticallyCorrect44 Mar 20 '23
It’s a fundraiser for your wedding yes, but also a way to celebrate with people who you can’t invite to your wedding. You have to have a reason to pull a liquor permit and they allow this. You sell cheap booze, book a DJ, and then have a good time. Between our food, prizes, etc, we barely broke even. But everyone had a good time and that was what was important!!
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u/ladyphlogiston Mar 21 '23
.....why not just do that for your wedding then?
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u/oldclam Mar 21 '23
They want people to pay for their wedding, but not pay for those same people to come to their wedding reception. Tacky
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u/bub-a-lub Mar 20 '23
Like jiggleboners said it’s a fundraiser for a wedding. This person isn’t a choosing beggar as this is perfectly normal. You ask local business if they’d like to donate stuff and then people buy tickets and put them in for whatever prize they’d like. It is a way to promote a business as a lot of times its gift certificates to use at the business plus whatever they feel like getting rid of as well. The couple makes money from the tickets for the prizes, drink tickets, and entrance tickets. It’s also normal for people to just buy tickets with no intention of going as it’s a few bucks to support a couple. They vary depend on where you live. My city it’s very informal whereas in Winnipeg it’s quite formal.
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u/zephyr2015 Mar 20 '23
The way they (deceptively) worded this ad makes it sound like they’re doing this to support the businesses when they’re actually doing this 100% for their own benefit.
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u/mlbo0p1 Mar 20 '23
This is so poorly written. I hate it.
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u/charrcheese Mar 20 '23
Support small business businesses who are looking for business. Send me your business things so I can promote your small business.
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u/SueEllen_Mischkey Mar 20 '23
I’d love to read the replies of the small businesses she’s trying to “help”.
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u/Different_Cod_1394 Mar 20 '23
Only if I get Naming rights to the first child a guys holds up a sign behind the minister and the bride wears my logo on the back of her dress. You will receive one tire rotation in mid summer.
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u/BeefInBlackBeanSauce Mar 20 '23
Lol I hate these!! Trying to make like they're doing you a favour, by taking your shit for free
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u/whyamihere327 Mar 20 '23
I can tell you from experience this “exposure” never ever works . If you have a business your best form of advertising is social media and it’s free. Even people who win the raffle won’t give two shits where the prize came from
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u/turtle_eating Mar 20 '23
They can't seriously think that they are fooling anyone.
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u/eraserewrite Mar 21 '23
My favorite when whoever typed it up stated they’d love to support their business three times.
I like how they they target small business owners too. More like juking small businesses.
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u/BowwwwBallll Mar 20 '23
“If you don’t have what I want, tell me what you DO have.”
What a crock. I need to see the comments.
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u/notthinkinghard Mar 20 '23
The quilt/blanket/throw bit makes me angry. Most handmade blankets are worth hundreds and hundreds of dollars because of the sheer number of hours it takes to make them. Not something you should be asking for as some kind of free sample
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u/AKahiapo Mar 21 '23
Came here to say this! A quilt?! Are you kidding me the hours and hours of work and skill go into making one is insane.
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u/quatrevingtquatre Mar 21 '23
YES this was my thought too… does this person have any clue how many hours go into a handmade quilt or blanket?? I would only make a handmade quilt as a gift for someone I absolutely love. I think any quilter would want to slap someone who asked them for a “free sample” / offered to pay in exposure.
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u/triciamilitia Mar 20 '23
Who the hell has a raffle for a wedding? I’m guessing she’s gonna sell those tickets to the raffle, so offering exposure bucks then making actual money? Nah
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u/somewhatofalegend Mar 21 '23
Update: I went back to look for replies and she deleted the whole thing lol. The laughing reactions must have tipped her off that it was a bad post.
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u/R0Y-BATTY Mar 20 '23
This person has just discovered the word “business” and it’s variations. Love how she says “can’t think of much” before listing NINETEEN different items for people to give her 😂😂😂
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u/SaveTheWetlands13 Mar 20 '23
I manage a local restaurant (single location, family-owned business, going on 9 years open) and the # of times a week people come in asking for gift cards, hoodies, food, money, or other donations for organizations that show us absolutely no support outside of the ask, from people we have never seen before… I’d say at least 5x a week. The owners are very charitable and donate back into the community, including having started a scholarship fund, and we do still give to some of the asks. But it’s crazy how many people come in with no benefit offered to us other than “exposure” for having donated.. especially how many people were hitting us with it right after the pandemic when we were still in a bad spot. We only started to be back into a good financial spot again summer 2022.
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u/CaptainEmmy Mar 20 '23
I wouldn't mind this if it were something bigger for the community than someone's wedding. Local business donations to support local community-supporting venture are charming. Local businesses paying for your wedding is not charming.
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u/PartyCurious Mar 20 '23
If I was a small business I would do it for advertisement on the wedding dress. Like soccer teams do.
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u/Some-Selection1811 Mar 20 '23
Why stop at small businesses? Let's cut to the chase: "I would like to help support everyone by giving them the opportunity to give me money. This is a great opportunity for getting your name known as a generous donor."
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u/RckYouLkeAHermanCain Mar 20 '23
I agree. Why not cut out the middle man and just ask for money, straight up?
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u/heybudbud Mar 20 '23
Lol "I can't think of much but here's a big-ass list of free shit I will accept"
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u/anneofred Mar 21 '23
I’m the outreach manager of a shelter. For our fundraisers we ask for donations from local businesses for raffles and what not…because we are a shelter! A non-profit! That’s true donations for a good cause, not just “I’m having some wedding event thing and you’ll get eXpOsUrE”
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u/RockEcstatic8064 Mar 20 '23
I tried supporting a drug dealer by not paying... it did not work out well
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u/Tylenolpainkillr Mar 21 '23
Someone should send her a bunch of swag from local insurance and realty companies lol. Imagine a never ending flood of promotional pens and shirts.
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u/RckYouLkeAHermanCain Mar 20 '23
I don't know what's tackier - having an auction at your wedding so you can shake your guests down, or asking for free shit for said auction.
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u/SayerSong Mar 21 '23
Uh-huh… So what the OOP is saying is “I want small, possibly struggling businesses to give me a bunch of free items that they probably can’t afford to give away, so I can have a good and free wedding social in an attempt to con other friends and family to give me more free stuff.”
Yeah…
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u/Penguwaffle Ice cream and a day of fun Mar 20 '23
But they’re giving those small business owners exposure by having their items at their wedding! /s
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u/JohnEffingZoidberg Mar 21 '23
"I am looking for small businesses to support me" is what the first line really should have read.
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u/cesptc Mar 21 '23
A freeloading hillbilly offering exposure to other freeloading hilliblllies, what a great opportunity
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u/Used_Grocery_9048 Mar 20 '23
OP - do you have the replies to that thread?
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u/somewhatofalegend Mar 21 '23
She deleted it now lol.
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u/Used_Grocery_9048 Mar 21 '23
Of course she did. I guess the local businesses didn’t find it to be such a great opportunity as she thought.
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u/puffballpretty Mar 20 '23
I used to co-own a small boutique and you would not believe the volume of people walking in asking for free stuff. People that had literally never been in the store before and didn't even know what kind of business we were.
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u/rockyyfresh Mar 21 '23
I want to read the comments on her post so badly
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u/somewhatofalegend Mar 21 '23
Me too! I went back and she deleted it. Had lots of laughing reactions on the post before she deleted it.
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u/dongdinge Mar 21 '23
the ONLY way this would make sense is if those items were on loan. If i made cabinets for example, i might be willing to loan one out on the criteria that i hand out business cards - with a deposit that will be returned with the cabinet. A gift though? Candles? HYGIENE ITEMS? No way lol. i can barely be arsed for my friends and family.
honestly I would be happy to set up a booth at someone’s wedding and sell/promote items also. Even if no one buys anything I could maybe get something entertaining together for promotion if it’s been slow.
(these both depend heavily on the size of the party also. but shit, i will just make your wedding seem like one of those MLM parties to all your guests, they will hate you forever)
I know that’s not what she’s asking but that’s the only way I’m able to make sense of this in my head why ANY business might ever consider this
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u/CO420Tech Mar 21 '23
Lol quilts... Quilts can take hundreds of man-hours and hundreds of dollars in materials to make and someone is just going to gift them to you so you can give their business card out?
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u/youngbeavis Mar 20 '23
Don't worry, guests are coming in from all over. So cousin Carol from Montana will bring your local shop a ton of word of mouth business from out of the country. We're talking tens and twenties worth of profit.
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u/0bxyz Mar 21 '23
Upside is if you participate, you might find more weddings to donate free stuff to out of it
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u/crackhousebob Mar 21 '23
It bothers me how people really think their shitty wedding with aunts and uncles from out of town is this great marketing opportunity for a small business owner. So awesome, a barely surviving small business will just give away free inventory.
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u/ThrowawayCAN123456 Mar 21 '23
My favourite part is how she can’t ‘think of much’ and proceeds to name a dozen things she thought of ….
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u/RoughMarionberry5 Mar 21 '23
More ideas:
- Rolls Royces
- Rolexes
- Yachts
- Private Islands
- First-Class RTW airplane tickets
Send me a PM/DM if you would like your business supported by donating the above!
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u/tangjams Mar 21 '23
I’m Canadian and have never heard of socials until this very thread.
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u/ElectricFleshlight Mar 21 '23
It's not uncommon for businesses to donate goods for raffle prizes... When the raffle is for charity. Nobody's going to do it for a damn wedding social.
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u/petite_lilyum Mar 22 '23
My left eye trembles when these people talk about "local small business", " community", "joy of sharing" and "exposure". I swear I get nauseous.
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u/DarthKahless Mar 20 '23
This is a wonderful opportunity for a small-town pimp to REALLY get their name out there!
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u/Antyok Mar 21 '23
I do woodworking, and certainly don’t mind providing free materials, like a small cutting board, for raffles, but they’re usually charity events. I’m not super keen on giving free stuff for some expo. If I’m going to “get my name out” at an expo, why not just get a booth?
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u/mcloayza29 Mar 21 '23
They must be brain dead. To support a business. You buy from a business, perhaps ask for a discount or even nice gift wrapping. But first, BUY the product 🌺
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u/aloha_mixed_nuts Mar 21 '23
“Why is no one clapping that reply button, don’t they know it’s to support them!!!” GTFO
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u/ChildhoodLeft6925 Mar 21 '23 edited Mar 21 '23
What is a “wedding social” ?
Is that extra words to describe a “wedding”
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u/SteveDurbano Mar 23 '23
Exposure is extremely valuable. It's like Bit Coin on steroids. I keep all of mine in a safety deposit box at the bank. It's hard to actually buy anything with it. My guess is no one keeps enough change on hand so it would be difficult for them to accept it. One day, exposure will pay my mortgage...hopefully. I keep sending it as my mortgage payment & the bank won't accept it. They better figure it out quickly before the foreclosures hearings next Friday.
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u/PoeticallyCorrect44 Mar 20 '23
I mean this is a thing for wedding socials…. Except she’s missing the whole etiquette behind it. You write a letter and ask businesses nicely, not create a post and make it sound like the businesses are doing you a favour….
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u/spderweb Mar 20 '23
Unfortunately, some businesses will fall for it. Otherwise,we'd have stopped seeing these long ago.
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u/stereotypicalguy1964 Mar 21 '23
Got free stuff ,so my friends can tell how you give away free stuff?? I’m your guy/girl. I got tons of cheapskate friends who will take advantage of you.
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u/AngryHippo3920 Mar 21 '23 edited Mar 21 '23
They are just too damn generous. This person is a giver, that much is clear. I know because they used "support" way more than necessary.
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u/OctaviaBlake100 Mar 21 '23
I would just give a coupon and a sample. Small businesses use their own money for materials. The small business would be losing money if they gave the whole product for free. Exposure doesn't pay rent.
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u/donottouchme666 Mar 22 '23
“I can’t think of much but here at 25 or so things that just popped in my head!”
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Mar 20 '23
Also, a raffle at a wedding? Huh?
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u/Electrical_Parfait64 Mar 21 '23
Ffs how many times need it be said it’s not a wedding. Use your thinking brain
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Mar 21 '23
“thinking brain” 😂 Sorry, never heard of a “wedding social” or whatever this is. Only familiar with weddings.
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u/fleakie Mar 21 '23
Only familiar with weddings.
I dunno if this was supposed to be a comeback, but it's an amazing comeback all the same.🙌🏻
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u/dlkbc Mar 21 '23
I grew up in Winnipeg where wedding and other socials (fundraisers for sports teams, other groups) are very common. They get a permit, sell tickets ($10 or $20, cheap enough so people will buy them to support them even if they don’t attend), provide some food (rye bread, cheese, pickles, garlic sausage, potato chips for example) and sell cheap drinks. They rent a hall and have music, all ages may be out on the dance floor! Those were the best times! They also have silent auctions and in addition to approaching businesses, they also ask their friends to provide auction items. So for example, I knew someone who donated a new TV and another who donated a wine gift basket. Winnipeg businesses are very aware of these socials and know they may be approached by people. When I moved from Winnipeg, I couldn’t understand why they don’t have these socials in other cities, they really are so much fun! If the person who posted it was in Winnipeg, no one would think they were a choosy begger but elsewhere, yes they would.
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u/fatpandasarehot Mar 21 '23
This is what every engaged couple does where I'm from. We have a "social" where all the guests pay $10 to go to. There is a silent auction where prizes donated by local businesses are up for grabs and a cash bar. The money raised goes towards the cost of the wedding and to pay for the social itself. I guess it's not normal everywhere, but we see this all the time heee
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u/wonka5x Mar 21 '23
Yeah...this is mire common than many realize. Where I am, it is not...but a region next door, it is similar to what you say. I find it kinda weird and tacky...but it's all a matter of what one grows up with I guess.
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u/Size14-OrangeDiver Mar 20 '23 edited Mar 20 '23
These “wedding socials” are customary in certain parts of Canada. Winnipeg is one of them. This is extremely normal. Friends of ours did this prior to their wedding. I thought it was absolutely stupid and petty. But when I learned more and actually attended the Social, I realized it’s a very cultural and very accepted rite of passage where they live. Sorry folks, I’m on board with this one.
I’ll say that the social I attended was 15 years ago. Before social media. Kinda before smart phones really. I agree with one person saying there was etiquette involved. It was the whole family that did the leg work to get these items. It was a really big deal. Putting a blast out on you Insta or whatever May just be the norm now, but not when I attended.
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u/OracleOfSelphi Mar 20 '23
I don't think people are complaining about the wedding social so much as the asking for free stuff. Every raffle I've ever been a part of has involved some kind of compensation for the businesses. Sometimes they were willing to donate for the cause, sure, but most of the time someone purchases the items being raffled off, sometimes at a discount, and then donates them to the raffle.
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u/LightRainPeaches Mar 20 '23
Just because it’s “normal” doesn’t make it any less trashy
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u/bub-a-lub Mar 20 '23
You can easily tell the Canadians are heavily outnumbered in this sub. It’s so common but this person just did a poor job of it
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u/Princessroya Mar 21 '23
Legit thing in Manitoba, Canada.
https://macleans.ca/society/life/the-social-a-manitoba-tradition/
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u/FloridaHobbit Mar 21 '23
I think she's just bad at sentence structure. She was trying to say she's looking for local businesses to support her. It is certainly unclear, but I think the local businesses will get the gist of it.
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u/helad0 Mar 20 '23
Ok I'm going to go against the grain here and say not a choosing beggar.
Wedding socials are common in my province, and many small businesses do support the socials as it brings them more business later. For example giving free tickets to a concert venue, restaurant gift cards, merch from the company, etc.
So I think this is more of a cultural thing and OP probably didn't realize this is actually a common ask for wedding socials.
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Mar 20 '23
It's the way they worded it. Just ask for donations. There's nothing wrong with that. You don't have to frame as if you're the one doing them a favor by having them give you free stuff
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u/RckYouLkeAHermanCain Mar 20 '23
Crocs are common, too.
They're still tacky and tasteless as fuck.
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u/gonnaleaveamark16 Mar 20 '23
I don’t think anyone is arguing that it’s not tacky, but it is a norm around here. But my province is also kind of the croc of Canada, so there’s that…
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u/richmagpies Mar 20 '23
‘Support small businesses’ by getting them to give you their stuff for free..? You utter wanker…